Stephanie Gray, who will headline our sponsored pro-life debate at Harvard on October 22nd, is a renowned pro-life speaker. She admits that there are situations that make bringing a child into the world look terrifying and unendurable. What about the children who are abused? What about children born into poverty?
Those are all good questions, and the women, babies, and families in those situations deserve a response.
But that response does not have to be abortion.
So what can a non-abortion response look like? Because we not only need to know what that response looks like, we need to continue to practice those responses, meeting the eyes of our women, and touching the lives of our pre-born children with concrete actions that say I support you.
This is a "non-abortion response:"
It can look like a couple who fostered children.
· It can look like a couple who adopted 3 little girls from China who had severe cleft palates which required multiple surgeries.
· It can look like a family who adopted a set of siblings from the foster care system in their own country.
· It can look like two people Stephanie met in her travels who adopted two children when their first biological child was only one. They since adopted two more children, both of whom have Down syndrome and serious heart conditions, all the while giving birth to 4 more children.
· It can look like an unmarried 28-year-old Stephanie met on a recent trip to the US: In the last 4 years she has fostered over 21 children and adopted 2 of them.
· It can look like a retired couple Stephanie knew who moved from their farm into a home for pregnant women in order to mentor them in motherhood.
· It can look like a pastor Stephanie encountered who is in his mid-50s. He and his wife have raised their own biological children and are now fostering—which is leading to adoption—3 young children.
· It can look like foster father Mohamed Bzeek who takes in terminally ill children.
· It can look like a mega Church in Texas whose pastor told me he is implementing a program where his church members make it their mission to foster and/or adopt local orphans.
· It can look like Love Life Charlotte, a beautiful pro-life ministry on a mission to embolden its church members to care for orphans through what they term “Orphan Care Hospitality.” Whether through fostering or adoption, learn more about what they are doing here and watch this short video about the Malone’s who have welcomed two children into their forever home through this amazing program.
· It can look like the Lott family who adopted 4 of their 6 children.
· It can look like Ryan Bomberger’s adopted family. His mom, once an orphan herself, made a promise to God when she was a young girl that she would be a mommy to those without one. She grew up, got married, and adopted 10 of their 13 children (Ryan, one of the adopted children, was conceived in rape. Having now grown up, he has since adopted two children.
"Is the abuse of children—pre-born or born—an unspeakable evil? Yes. Does it demand a response? Without a shadow of a doubt. Can children be rescued and aided without abortion? The lived experiences of the examples above are living proof of that."
We thank you for being the proof that the response to pain, or to a vulnerable child, can be love.
We invite you to join Stephanie, and the movement for life in Massachusetts, on October 22nd at 7pm online for a debate with philosopher, Peter Singer.
By C.J. Williams, MCFL Director of Community Engagement
What do you do if you find yourself in a pro-life/pro-choice conversation where the other person seems closed off to all of your arguments? You may know someone, or be the someone, who always knows a clear and convincing argument for the fact that human rights begin at conception. But now you're in that dialogue outside the clinic, or at your work place, pro-life to pro-choice -- and no matter what you say, you feel like you're building a bigger wall.
At this point, Stephanie Gray (who will headline our Dr. Mildred Jefferson Symposium at Harvard (virtually!) on October 22nd, debating Professor Peter Singer) says -- look to the heart.
If you and your friend are drawing farther apart, it's likely that this is a heart, not a head, issue.
One out of 3 of my peers lost their life to abortion. Can you picture how many people you meet each day, and can you now visualize the numbers personally touched by abortion?
The tips in the following video remind us that we are not on two sides of an insurmountable mountain when we discuss abortion with our peers or fellow citizens. But we do meet, sometimes, in front of a deep wound that runs like a chasm between us.
That wound is abortion.
We cannot argue to a heart; we have to love it. Thus, most of our intentional encounters that seem to run up against a wall need to be brought out of the head and onto the level of relationship.
A few reminders:
--Meet your friend, or the stranger on the street corner, as another human being -- what is their story?
--Whom do they care about, and why does abortion matter to them?
--Is there something you can do to answer their questions?
--Do we really want to base our concept of human rights on an act of violence?
I highly recommend listening to Stephanie's interview and discussion below on How to Effectively Argue About Abortion. She gets to the heart of the matter; and that's something I'm sure she will also accomplish in our sponsored debate, on October 22nd at 7pm on the question of: Is Abortion Moral?