One of the leading factors that cause women to consider abortion is that they do not have the support of the father of their child. The tendency to choose abortion goes way up if the mother and father are not married.
Consider the situation of the British soap star Stephanie Davis who said recently she was driven to consider abortion when her boyfriend left her and she was left in despair.
Claiming she had broken down after getting “a certain few phone calls” from her ex and didn’t know if she was strong enough to carry on, explaining during the emotional interview: “I was on my hands and knees. I couldn’t take it anymore.”
“I thought he was the one to save me from this. I honestly thought this isn’t fair to bring in a baby to something toxic.”
Abortion isn’t just a women’s issue, because there are two parents for every baby. It takes two people to bring that child into the world. And since uncertainty and fear are such prime motivators for abortion, a lack of emotional, financial, and physical support from the father often leaves the mother vulnerable to the manipulation of abortionists and the siren call of the “easy out” of what seems like bad situation.
Men, we need to step up. We’ve been told for decades to butt out of abortion because this is solely about women. But the reality is that we need to encourage the men around us to be better men (and to be better men ourselves), to take responsibility for our actions and for the people in our lives who need us.
We need to have courage to face down our fears. Yes, men who leave the mother of their child to the choice of abortion or even force them into it are often motivated by fear: fear of commitment, fear of their own failings, fear of being bad fathers and husbands, fear of hard work and unfamiliar obligations, and fear of vulnerability.
What can we do? We can raise good men in our own sons. We can mentor other young men too, whether through Big Brother or Scouting or similar community programs. We can join men’s groups or become mentors. Whatever it is, we need to step up and show that true courage is in self-sacrifice and providing for our children and their mothers.